Txiv neej thiab poj niam - peb nyias txawv nyias, tab sis tib lub sij hawm peb tsis tuaj yeem nyob ib hnub dhau ib leeg. Thiab kev sib raug zoo nrog kev sib raug zoo thiab kev hlub yeej raug rau kev sib cav thiab kev nyuaj siab. Thaum koj paub tias nws tau hais ntau yam tsis tseem ceeb ntawm tus cwj pwm, koj paub tias nws tsis yooj yim to taub yuav thov kev zam txim los ntawm koj tus txiv leej tub. Tab sis koj tsis xav txhim kho txoj kev sib raug zoo ntawm cov nqes, thiab qhov no qhia tau tias koj xav tau kawm txog qee yam ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg sawv cev ntawm lub zog ntawm ib nrab ntawm tib neeg.
Yuav ua li cas zoo nkauj thiab nyob rau tib lub sij hawm nws yog cai thov kev zam txim los ntawm ib tug txiv leej tub?
Txhais tau hais tias nws tsis zoo li hais tias qhov no tsis yog qhov tseeb, tab sis qhov tseeb, tus txiv neej yog kev siab ntsws heev. Lawv ua siab ntev rau kev ua txhaum lawv tau raug kev nyuaj, txawm tias lawv tsis qhia rau leej twg. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau ib tug ntxhais lees tias nws tsis yog lawm. Sib sau ua ke nrog tus ntsuj plig, koj yuav tsum tso ib kab lus: "Zam txim rau kuv, thov." Yog qhov teeb meem tsis sib haum nrog kev pab los ntawm ib qho "thov txim", nws yog qhov tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum xav txog cov ntsiab lus ntxaum ntxiv.
Yog li, ua ntej koj mus rau nws nrog tu siab nyob rau hauv koj tus kheej tsis ncaj ncees lawm, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom saib qhov teeb meem ntawm sab nraud, objectively, xa koj tus ego. Thiab txawm tias koj to taub hais tias ob qho tib si yog txhaum rau qhov teeb meem, thawj zaug koj yuav tsum tsis txhob tham txog nws. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau piav qhia rau tus tub hluas li cas thaum lub sij hawm muaj kev sib cav los sis tsis muaj peev xwm hais tau. Txhua tus paub hais tias tib lo lus txhua tus neeg ua rau nws lub ntsiab lus, uas txhais tau hais tias nyob rau lub sij hawm ntawm kev sib cog phooj ywg nws yog qhov tseem ceeb kom cia tus khub to taub tias koj tsis muaj lub siab xav ua txhaum rau nws. Ntxiv mus, nws tseem ceeb heev kom tsis txhob muaj cov ntaub ntawv zoo li: "Koj ua dab tsi koj ua rau kuv ces," Thiab koj yuav tsis npau taws - ib tug txiv neej, raws li txoj kev koj, tsis yog kuv. " Zoo li "pokes", ib qho kev qhia ntawm nws yuam kev, thiab tsis koj, tsuas muaj peev xwm ntawm
Yuav ua li cas nug tus txiv leej tub lub txim nyob rau hauv ib qho yooj yim txoj kev?
Thov kev zam txim los ntawm tus txiv neej nkawv tuaj yeem nrog kev pab los ntawm lawv cov lus, los kos npe rau lawv ib co paj huam. Qhov no yog qhov tshwj xeeb tshaj yog los ntawm cov neeg uas yog vwm txog paj huam. Yog hais tias ib tug txiv leej tub pheej nrhiav kev tshoov siab tsis nyob rau hauv cov ntawv, tab sis hauv nws tus kheej playlist, ces koj tuaj yeem xyuam xim nws zaj nkauj nws nyiam los ntawm kos npe los ntawm nws cov lus: "Zam txim rau kuv ruam."
Ib qho ntawm cov kev nyiam tshaj plaws yog cov hauv qab no: nrog kev pab los ntawm qhov kev pabcuam me nyuam nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau kom khoom qab zib thiab cov ncuav qab zib nrog nws nyiam haus nws. Nyob rau tej lub sijhawm zoo li no, koj yuav tsum tau sau cov lus nrog cov lus: "Kuv kho siab tsis muaj koj luag. Zam txim rau kuv ... ".