Peb txhua tus hauv lub neej muaj ntau yam teeb meem tsis pom kev thiab kev tu siab tu siab, uas ntxiv dag zog rau txoj kev xav tsis zoo. Nws yog nyob rau hauv no qhov teeb meem uas cov lus nug tshwm sim ntawm yuav ua li cas distracted los ntawm kev xav phem thiab rov qab mus rau qub lub neej. Psychologists qhia kom pib nkag siab thiab txheeb xyuas qhov teeb meem, kom nkag siab tias qhov kev coj ncaj ncees tau ua rau hnub no qhov teeb meem.
Yuav ua li cas thiaj li cuam tshuam ntawm kev xav tu siab?
Qhov teeb meem ntawm kev tsis zoo siab lub xeev, raws li ib txoj cai, muaj tseeb yog vim li cas, uas peb unconsciously thawb tawm ntawm peb tus kheej. Feem ntau lawv yog los ntawm kev ntshai, kev ntxhov siab, tsis meej nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej, cov kev xav no ua rau muaj kev nyuab siab heev. Yuav ua li cas thiaj tsis cuam tshuam los ntawm cov kev xav tsis zoo thiab kev txhawj xeeb, vim tias thaum koj cia ntshai, tshem ntawm nws yog qhov nyuaj heev.
Thaum nug txog kev khiav tawm ntawm kev xav obsessive, kws qhia tawm tswv yim:
- Yog tias tus neeg muaj kev txhawj xeeb thiab kev txhawj xeeb tas li, nws yuav tsum xav txog qhov teeb meem uas txhua yam nws ntshai tau los. Peb yuav tsum nug peb tus kheej rau peb tus kheej: "Yuav muaj dab tsi tshwm sim yog tias kuv ntshai tuaj yeem muaj tseeb?" Feem ntau, nws pab kom paub tias lub neej tsis muaj nyob rau ntawd. Piv txwv li, ib tug neeg ntshai ntshai raug rho tawm haujlwm, xav tias qhov no twb tau tshwm sim, thiab nws xav tau los daws qhov teeb meem, uas yog, nrhiav hauj lwm tshiab los yog lwm cov nyiaj tau los.
- Kev rov nce nqi ntawm qhov tseem ceeb yog ib theem tseem ceeb hauv kev sib ntaus tawm tsam kev xav phem. Nws tsuas yog txaus siab rau kev cia siab thiab sau rau hauv qhov nqis txo nqi tag nrho lub neej qhov tseem ceeb thiab tseem ceeb. Muab tso rau ib teev los yog ob, thiab rov los saib dua ntawm daim ntawv no. Thiab nws hloov tawm tias kev noj qab haus huv ntawm cov neeg pluag yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj qhov kev poob haujlwm, kev zoo siab ntawm tus me nyuam tseem ceeb tshaj qhov kev hlub chim siab.
Yuav ua li cas kom tau deb ntawm kev xav phem - tawm tswv yim ntawm cov kws kho kev puas siab puas ntsws
Cov tswv yim tswv yim, yuav ua li cas cuam tshuam los ntawm kev xav tu siab uas cov kws kho mob xav tau:
- Peb yuav tsum kawm kom tsis txhob cuam tshuam. Nyob rau hauv cov teeb meem haujlwm yam koj nyiam thiab nyiam ua.
- Ua ib ce. Qee cov kws tshawb fawb qhia thaum lawv pib kov yeej
kev xav phem, ua rau koj lub cev - zaum-nce, thawb tawm, kauj vab. Thaum cov leeg ua haujlwm ntawm qhov kev txwv, lub siab xav rov qab. - Txim rau kev tu siab. Ib txoj kev ua yooj yooj yim yog kom muab pob zeb ci rau ntawm koj txhais tes thiab nrog txhua qhov phem xav rub rov qab thiab nias ntawm tes, thiab tsis muaj zog, tab sis tangibly. Lub hlwb ua rau lub siab tawv kom mob, txhua zaus uas tau txais qhov teebmeem mob qhov kev xav tu siab, nws yuav zam tau lawv.
Qhov teeb meem uas zoo li peb tog, peb muaj kev daws teeb meem. Koj tsuas yog ua kom muaj kev rau siab thiab pib ua yeeb yam.