Qee lub sij hawm lub neej yog unpredictable thiab, nyob rau hauv peb ua si, heev poob nthav rau peb, hloov lub cuab ntxhiab ntawm lub ntsiab cim. Nws yuav zoo li hmo nag hmo uas koj tus txiv neej uas koj hlub tau saib ntsoov koj, cog lus tias nws hlub nws tas hnub, tab sis yuav nco qab li cas tias koj yog ib tug poj niam uas tau tso tseg. Nws yuav hais tias tam sim no koj tsis to taub qhov twg nrhiav tau lub zog, nyob rau hauv, tsim thiab rov qab hlub dua ib tug neeg. Thiab yam nyuaj tshaj plaws kom to taub yog dab tsi yuav tsum tau ua kom tsis nco qab tus txiv neej nrog leej twg ntau tau raug kev cob cog.
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Nws yog ruam rau refute lub fact tias kev poob kev hlub, nrog ib tus hlub, ntaus ib lub tshuab loj heev rau lub xeev puas siab puas ntsws. Nws muaj peev xwm mus ntev, hli, xyoo dull siab kev zoo siab, kev hlub, fencing tawm ntawm cov xim vam khom xim. Tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nco ntsoov tias muaj ib qho tswv yim uas yuav pab tiv thaiv txoj kev ua phem ntawm kev sib cais. Peb tuaj yeem coj koj lub tswv yim ntawm ib tus kws kho kev puas siab ntsws uas yuav pab qhib koj lub paj hlwb thib ob, thiab koj yuav nkag siab tias yuav nco koj tus txiv neej uas nws hlub.
- Freud sau hais tias nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev "kom rhuav tshem ntawm lub zog ntawm lub siab hlub, tab sis tam sim no ib yam khoom poob." Tab sis nws yog tsis tuaj tawm ntawm dej hiav txwv ntawm disappointments thiab kev tu siab, tsis muab nws tus kheej mus rau insane vuag. Yog li ntawd, Txoj Cai # 1 ntawm txoj kev mus rau lub neej zoo dua tsis muaj nws, koj tus hlub, yog cia koj tus kheej ua siab ntxhw, kev tu siab, nco ntsoov qhov zoo tshaj plaws thiab qhov phem tshaj ntawm koj. Nco ntsoov tias txhua yam uas lawv xav hais, tab sis lawv tsis twv. Ntseeg kuv, nws zoo dua tso koj tus kheej zoo tshaj qhov nkaum lawv qhov chaw nyob hauv qhov tob ntawm koj tus essence. Hov sai los sis tom qab ntawd lawv yuav ua rau lawv tus kheej hnov, tab sis nws yuav tshwm sim tau tias qhov zoo li no tsis tuaj yeem nyob rau lub sijhawm.
- "Yuav ua li cas tsis nco qab ib tug txiv neej tom qab quaj, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog yog hais tias tus xav tsis txias rau nws?" - lo lus nug no teev ntau tus poj niam. Tab sis yeej muaj ib lub teeb nyob rau thaum xaus ntawm qhov qhov av, hauv txhua qhov teeb meem muaj ib qho tawm. Yog li ntawd, thaum tus thawj sharpness ntawm qhov poob ntawm qhov khoom ntawm kev hlub subsides, ua ruthless thiab free koj tus kheej los ntawm tag nrho cov duab, tej yam uas tau koom rau nws. Yog hais tias qhov categorically tes tsis ua kom puas rau tag nrho cov no, ntim nws thiab xa nws tag nrho mus rau ib tug uas tsoo tawm koj kev sib raug zoo. Tsis txhob cia koj tus kheej mus rau nws cov nplooj ntawv. Txhaum txoj kev txuas nrog koj cov neeg paub zoo. Tsis muaj qhov lees paub tias qhov no yuav muab rau koj yooj yim. Tab sis, ntseeg kuv, thaum qhov kev sib txuas nrog cov khoom tseem ceeb ntawm koj lub cim xeeb txog qhov qub lover disappears, koj yuav npaj txhij mus txuas ntxiv nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev tshiab.
- Psychologists xa mus rau theem peb ntawm kev dim ntawm cov kev xav qub thiab kev xav, lub sijhawm ntawm "Sib cais." Qhov no yog vim qhov tseeb uas txij tam sim no nyob rau hauv koj lub hlwb muaj ob lub neej ntws - ib tug uas yog nrog tus koj hlub thiab tam sim no, tsis muaj nws. Ib zaug hauv koj lub sijhawm, ua rau koj tus kheej xav tau, koj yuav to taub tias koj tuaj yeem tsis muaj mob hauv koj lub siab, tig saib. Thaum qhov no tshwm sim, koj yuav tsis yog tus yeeb yam tseem ceeb ntawm koj yav dhau los, tab sis tsuas yog tus neeg saib xyuas, tus saib xyuas ntawm kev nco. Tab sis tsis yog lawm.
- Nws tsis suav nrog tias koj yuav xav txog kev xaiv xws li "Thiab yog tias kuv tseem hu nws?". Pov tseg "yog-dheev." Khiav tawm ntawm lawv mus. Tsis pom nws.
Mus rau pem suab yam tsis tig rov qab.
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias cov kws kho mob xav tau kev pom zoo, tom qab hnyav poob, ua ib qho tsis tsim kev sib raug zoo tshiab nrog lub hom phiaj ntawm kev xa koj tus khub, cia peb hais, ua "plaster" ntawm koj qhov kev mob hlwb. Cov kev sib raug zoo no yuav tsis muaj kev zoo siab xaus. Koj yuav muaj peev xwm ceev nrooj rau koj tus txiv neej nyiam, tab sis thaum koj tso tus ntsuj plig los so, rov xav txog dab tsi tshwm sim, tau txais kev paub thiab muaj zog dua. Txhua yam yuav siv sij hawm. Tab sis tsis txhob hnov qab hais tias txhua tus neeg xav tau ib lub sij hawm sib txawv rau lawv txhua tus: ib tug neeg tau ob peb lub hlis, thiab ib tug neeg tsuas yog ib xyoos xwb yuav zoo li ib tus neeg tshiab.