Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau txhua tus poj niam kom paub tias yuav tsum hlub nws tus kheej, vim tus ntxhais uas tsis muaj nqis rau nws tus kheej thiab tsis muaj peev xwm ntawm nws tus kheej yog tsis pom zoo los nrhiav tus khub uas saib nws, ua haujlwm thiab tseem muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws cov menyuam.
Nws txhais li cas los hlub koj tus kheej rau ib tug poj niam?
Psychologists feem ntau qhia rau peb tias qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog los ntawm kev sib haum xeeb nrog koj tus kheej, txwv tsis pub, tus neeg yuav tau coj los ntawm lwm tus neeg lub tswv yim, ua nws lub neej, thiab tsis muaj peev xwm tiag tiag zoo siab. Psychology muab lo lus teb rau lo lus nug ntawm yuav ua li cas poob rau hauv kev hlub nrog ib tug poj niam, kws txawj hais tias nws yog tsim nyog yuav tau ua cov hauv qab no:
- Tsim ib daim ntawv teev tseg ntawm koj tus kheej txoj hauj lwm zoo thiab tas li kom nws pom. Yog li ntawd, tus ntxhais yuav tau mloog zoo rau nws tus kheej txoj haujlwm zoo, tsis yog qhov ua tsis taus, xav txog lossis xav paub tiag.
- Ua txhua yam khoom plig rau koj tus kheej, tsis tas yuav kim, qhov tseem ceeb ntawm qhov kev ua no yog nco ntsoov tias koj yuav tsum tau txais ib qho txiaj ntsim nkaus xwb rau koj yog, tsis yog rau kev ua tiav.
- Sim ua tib zoo saib seb yam xwm txheej hauv koj lub neej ua rau koj pib hnov koj tus kheej paub. Cov khoom no yog qhov nyuaj ua rau koj tus kheej, yog tias ua tau, hu rau ib tus kws khomob tshwjxeeb. Zoo, thaum koj tsis tuaj yeem nrhiav tus kws kho mob zoo lossis tuaj koom nrog kev cob qhia, koj tuaj yeem sib tham nrog qhov no, xws li ib tug phooj ywg. Tau kawg, qhov no tsis yog tib yam li tau txais kev pab tswv yim, tab sis nws yog qhov ua tau kom ua tiav cov nyhuv.
- Nco ntsoov nyeem cov phau ntawv rau cov pojniam txog kev hlub koj tus kheej, kev txheeb xyuas zoo tau muab rau cov haujlwm hauv qab no - E. Mikhailov "Kuv nyob hauv kuv tus kheej", M. Litvak "Yog tias koj xav kom zoo siab," S. Mamontov
"Daim duab ntawm kev xav qia dub," G. Moore "Hlub koj tus kheej rau koj tus kheej."
Lwm lo lus nug uas txhawj xeeb ntau tus txiv neej yog li cas yuav ua rau ib tug poj niam hlub lawv tus kheej. Feem ntau nws yog qhov teeb meem uas psychologists tig mus hais mav leej twg tsis xav kom ntxeem txoj kev tawm tsam ntawm lawv tus hluas nkauj, uas pheej tsis ntseeg nws vim nws tus kheej tsis ntseeg. Yog hais tias tus ntxhais tus ntxhais nws tsis xav hloov qhov teeb meem no, nws tsuas muaj ib yam, lossi qhia nws cov lus qhuas, sim ua kom zoo nkauj surprises thiab convincing nws txhua hnub tias nws zoo nkauj li nws yog. Ntau, hmoov tsis, ib tug txiv neej tsis muaj kev pab ntawm tus ntxhais nws tus kheej ua tsis tau, tab sis txawm tias cov kev ua no yooj yim yuav pab txhim kho qhov teeb meem kom zoo dua.